After twelve years of being a pastor I have conducted many sessions of marriage counseling. There seems to be one consistent theme: each individual wants me to tell their spouse what they need to fix. No one ever comes in thinking that they themselves are the problem. They all “know” that their spouse is the problem.
The Word of God teaches us that we must all give an account before God. We are going to give an account of ourselves. We are to judge not because we will stand in judgement before God for our own deeds. Suffice to say: we are only responsible for our actions. We can only control our own actions. We will give an account for our own actions.
We cannot change someone’s actions or thoughts. We can, however, change our own. That is the only control we have in any relationship. We can make sure that we are doing the right thing, that we are responding the right way and that we are handling each situation the way that God wants us to.
As a Christian it is our reaction to the situations in our life that set us apart from those without Christ. Regardless of the circumstances that come our way – good or bad – we know Who is in charge and we know from Whom our strength comes.
To those that do not know us very well, the fact that we are a Christian may not be readily obvious. Lots of people are nice, hard working, patriotic, family oriented, and involved in their communities. Those qualities are not exclusive to a Christian – though they should be evident in a Christian. It is when things suddenly go wrong – when the crisis arises – that the faith on which the Christian rests is suddenly tested. The Christian should not panic when others are frightened The Christian should not gloat when he is recognized. The Christian should not lash out when they are wrongly accused. The Christian does not complain when life seems unfair.
Our testimony and our faith is on full display when life sends a big moment. Good or bad, our focus should be on God and our purpose should be for God to get the Glory!